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The ABC process of gradual erosion of intimacy among Filipino women: A qualitative study

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Background & Aim: Intimate partner relationships are often idealized as sources of love and security; however, for many women, they become contexts of coercion, betrayal, and harm. In the Philippines, intimate partner violence and relational instability remain prevalent, yet the gradual and symbolic processes through which intimacy erodes remain underexplored in nursing and public health. This study explored how Filipino women experience and interpret the gradual erosion of intimacy in their intimate partner relationships.
Materials & Methods: Using a constructivist grounded theory–inspired design, this study involved thirteen Filipino women aged 22-54 who had experienced the dissolution of a significant romantic relationship. In-depth semi-structured interviews were conducted across two analytic phases. Data were analyzed through iterative coding, constant comparison, and memo writing until thematic saturation was reached.
Results: Intimacy erosion was identified as a cumulative, nonlinear process rather than a single rupture. Six interconnected subcategories described this process: (1) abuse and coercive control, (2) behavioral shifts and emotional distancing, (3) cheating and betrayal of trust, (4) disregard and alienation, (5) extended family interference, and (6) frightening and threats to safety. These experiences progressively undermined trust, emotional safety, and commitment, often shifting relationships from endurance to survival-driven separation.  
Conclusion: Intimacy erosion among Filipino women reflects a layered process of symbolic loss and relational disempowerment. Early recognition of these patterns is essential. Nurses play a critical role in assessing relational health, validating experiences, and advocating for trauma-informed, culturally responsive interventions that address relational well-being as a public health priority.

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